Surprising Things Men Find Unattractive
Sometimes we try so hard to attract the opposite sex that we fail to notice that some of the actions and behaviors we portray actually drives them away. You may never realize that instead of attracting them, you are driving them away. In this article, you will be able to see some surprising things that men find unattractive. As a result, you will avoid these actions and find yourself the perfect romance.
1. Wearing too much make-up
We all love make-up. The foundation, the concealer, eye shadow, eyeliner and mascara all have a way of enhancing our beauty to make us look even more gorgeous. There is confidence that you get from wearing make-up. Furthermore, in many cases it makes you look more appealing. However, overdoing it does not help the situation. Women often overestimate the amount of makeup they need and end up wearing too much of it. This does not sit well with men. If you apply too much makeup with the hope of looking more attractive, you might just be doing the opposite because men find it unattractive.
Makeup is not bad at all but remembers less is always more when it comes to makeup.
2. Extreme makeovers
Women have a weakness of being too obsessed with their weaknesses and always trying to enhance themselves through surgeries and other products. But if a man likes you for who you are, then really why do you find it necessary to keep adjusting your appearance every now and then? Some common extreme makeover habits that men find unattractive include plastic surgery, cycling different styles and crash dieting to lose weight. There is no need to be insecure. You need to be comfortable in your own skin if you want to attract a man. Men find insecure women unattractive. They want women who are confident and sure about themselves. Love yourself just the way you are and don’t feel like you have to reinvent yourself for a man. You will not get that man in the first place.
We have all fallen victims of this sometime in our lives. Sharing the latest rumors, scandal, and stories about people, family or friends is something that sounds fun yet men find unattractive. Gossip is a major turn off for men. Your intentions may be good but the message you are passing across is that you have low self-esteem and you are a really shallow person. Most gossips are people who find it easier to talk about others because they feel insecure about themselves. So, don’t just dish out stories around a man you have your eyes on. You will eventually push them away.
4. Having no life
Relationships are about finding a balance between being close and giving each other space to express each other’s personality. Being needy is something men find unattractive. Time apart does not mean a break-up. It may just be time to pursue some interests that make each of you a better person. Men want time to breathe and not to be followed around all the time. You can’t demand to be together 24/7 and expect the man to be attracted to you. It will not work.
5. Excessive confidence
Men do find women who have high self-esteem very attractive. Nevertheless, there is a fine line between being confident and being conceited. You should always be confident about yourself, your achievement and your accomplishments. There is nothing wrong with that. However, pride and showing off is something men find unattractive. The assumption is always that proclaiming your awesomeness will attract men. Unfortunately, they don’t. Entertaining a huge ego just passes you to be a narcissist which men find unattractive. Pursue humility as an alternative. You should be so secure about yourself that you don’t need to be arrogant to be attractive. You don’t have to constantly remind a man how great you are because they will see it in you.
6. Lacking purpose and ambition
Sometimes it can be difficult to have your whole life figured out. On the other hand, men want to be with a person who has ambition and a direction in life. Talking about your feelings of being lost and having no idea on how to get back on track puts men off. You pass off as unstable and that men find unattractive. Men do enjoy feeling needed once in a while but they don’t want to feel like they have to rescue you all the time. If they are clear about their future, they want someone beside them who is clear about their future as well.
7. Talking ill of your ex
Yes, your ex might have cheated on you and broken your heart but a man does not want to keep on hearing about your ex. Bad-mouthing ex is a behavior that men find unattractive. Talking ill about your ex illustrates either of two things:
a. You are spiteful and juvenile
b. You are still harboring feelings for your ex
c. Don’t vent out your feelings about your ex. Let the past remain just that, the past. Try and move on.
Life presents us with challenges which can take a toll on our emotions. In such situations, we must have authentic reactions. There is no need to lie to ourselves about how we feel. However, this does not mean always being negative. You must decide to see the positive aspect of every situation. Men find negative personalities unattractive. Be more optimistic if you want to be attractive.
9. Being catty to other girls
You must always stand up for yourself when you need to but intentionally getting yourself involved in drama and fights is not attractive to men. Verbal and physical fights just make you look immature and insecure.
Men find emotionally needy women unattractive. They want to complement your life and not be the center of your universe.
Some of these habits are unintentional yet they cost you to find the right man. Try and break any negative cycles if you want to be more attractive.