The Most Common Reasons Couples Get Divorced


Statistically, more than four in 10 marriages fail, to be precise, 42 % of marriages end in divorce, and 34 % of married couples divorce before their 20th wedding anniversary. This implies that many couples who were previously in harmonious relationships ended up getting divorced within 20 years of their nuptials.

Marriage counselors have proposed the nine most common reasons for divorce in couples.


  1. Money problems


Financial problems are often the cause of 18% of divorces. Of course after 20 years of marriage one expects gifts like this and much more from, but it’s not always so. Issues can stem up if a husband and wife have different value bases, in terms of spending money and saving for future prospects.


  1. Affairs

Divorce - Affairs

Another major cause of divorce, aside from destroying the trust built up, it can lead to difficulties in establishing honesty in a relationship.


  1. Interfering ex-partners

Divorce - Interfering ex-partners

An ex receiving your partner’s attention creates tension when establishing a new relationship. This brings out the feeling that you’re second in your partners’ life, as their ex is more important in their life than you. Feelings of anger, jealousy and finally rejection can creep in leading to a divorce.


  1. Differences in sexual libido

Differences in sexual libido

When one partner, isn’t satisfied with the sexual part in a relationship, there can be a cause of divorce. How? Well, it may lead to affairs which subsequently break trust and lead to divorce.


  1. Children from previous relationships

Divorce - Children from previous relationships

Children from previous relationships may not necessarily be wanted. There is a huge difference between how people react to their own blood and how they react to their stepchildren. More so, parents make different allowances for children who are theirs. When someone else’s children are involved, it may be hard to establish the same relationship.


  1. Intrusive parents

Divorce - Intrusive parents

Well, we all have heard about how in-laws influence marriages. In the case where they are interfering in every decision-making platform, this can be a problem. Also, if they perceive your partners in a different manner, this can be a challenge. For example, if one partner spends too much time talking with their mother, this creates a breakdown of intimacy among the couple in the relationship.


  1. Difference in how a conflict is resolved

Divorce - Difference in how a conflict is resolved

If someone grew up in a family where arguing is very common, they tend to think that it is common. It then becomes an issue when they’re in a relationship with someone who isn’t used to it and/or doesn’t like arguing. This indicates when a problem arises, it can be difficult to solve.


  1. Differences in communication

Differences in communication

If either partner is of the type who shares all their intimate thoughts, but the other is the silent one, this can cause major problems in the marriage as this will often be interpreted as ‘they don’t love me, they’re not interested in me’.


  1. Privacy problems

Privacy problems

Privacy in a relationship should be respected. There isn’t anything much to say about it other than, the major cause of trust breach is disrespecting one’s privacy.



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